One of the biggest problems in marriage today is infidelity, and many will believe that a cheating man is at fault. While it is true that men cheat often, women will do it as well. Normally, women will turn to cheating when they rise into positions of power or simply have more options. Using this, one could say that the opportunity for cheating will lead to cheating itself regardless of the individual but this does not have to be true.
There are many cultures that have managed to reduce cheating in their societies by limiting contact between the genders and even inflicting death upon those who would dare to commit an act of infidelity. Yes, this does help to cut down on the number of incidents in a given year but it also serves to take away free choice. The absence of free choice simply suggests that men and women are not capable of true monogamy, and if that were the case, all of this would be utterly pointless. We choose to believe that even with free choice we can make the right decision! Whether this is a farce or mere futility remains to be see, but there are plenty of ways in which you might attempt to revive your marriage after a cheating man sparks an event of infidelity in your relationship. That being said, it is important for you to keep the following items in mind:
- Relationships take a long time to form, marriage takes even longer.
- The occurrence of a cheating man or even a cheating woman will often have a story behind it.
- It is important for you to hear both sides of the story before you pass judgment.
- Never rush into a situation believing you understand its complexities.
- Try to understand the type of affair that is taking place.
- Never let anger decide for you.
If you are feeling angry when you discuss the affair with your significant other, it may be a good idea to put off the discussion until such time as you have been able to dismiss those feelings. This might sound a bit simple, but it can be difficult to rid yourself of the rage that is built up inside you. That being said, make sure you are mentally prepared for the healing process before you attempt to begin!
A cheating man may not have committed a sexual act, but an act of sexuality is not always required for cheating. Emotional cheating is a very real thing, and it is one of the most dangerous forms of cheating as it can sneak into conversations and take over before the man in question knows it. The internet and social networking have made this form of cheating much easier and it could go on for years before the spouse becomes aware of it. This is a terrible situation and it has been responsible for the destruction of many marriages. Before it ends the marriage, it will lead first to suspicion, then to paranoia, and finally to a confrontation that rocks the very foundation of the marriage.
These are a few things that you will need to worry about, but as you probably know by now, a marriage can be salvaged! There is no such thing as a lost cause, and if you are willing to put the work into it, you might just find that your marriage can continue right where it left off.
Get more information at Dr. Frank Gunzburg’s site, Marriage Sherpa