Confronting a cheating spouse is possibly one of the hardest things to do in a relationship, for a number of reasons. Obviously, it’s very painful being cheated on by somebody you love, which is without a doubt one of the most heartbreaking things that can happen in a relationship. If you are suspicious that your partner might be cheating on you, you need to be very careful about how you handle it. You will be very angry and hurt but you don’t want to take that anger out on your partner until you are fully aware of what has been going on.
It’s very important you don’t become paranoid about your partner cheating, because it will only cause you more problems in the long run. Would you like to be with somebody who is always accusing you of cheating? No, you wouldn’t – it’s not very nice being accused of cheating when you haven’t actually been cheating and this which can lead to other problems within the relationship. The only sure way to find out if your partner is cheating on you is to confront them, but how do you go about confronting a cheating spouse?
You need to be careful about how you confront them when you have no actual proof, because you don’t want to cause a huge fuss over something that turns out to have an innocent explanation. On the other hand, if they are in fact cheating on you, then it is a complete different story. I suppose it really comes down to the people in the relationship and how they are as people. Everyone reacts differently and it’s a case of knowing the right way to ask your partner, which might seem really simple, but it’s honestly not. If you have ever tried to confront your partner about cheating, then you will know it’s not exactly an easy conversation to start.
This might sound silly, but the worst thing to do when confronting your partner is to get into a arugument, because then your both going to be annoyed and angry, say things you don’t mean and it just causes more problems for you. The best way to confront your partner, is to speak to them in a calm way, explain why you think they are cheating and simply explain them to explain themselves. After hearing their explanation, then it’s up to you if you want to believe them or not.
Some people might wait to confront a cheating spouse until they have proof in hand of infidelity. While this is a good idea if proof is easily obtained, there are times when it’s only a gut feeling based on little things you’ve noted. If you truly feel that they are cheating and you don’t confront them because you want to find evidence, you could do more damage to the relationship in the long run.
Read How to Survive an Affair, an excellent guide that can help you both with confronting a cheating spouse in a more productive way and to rebuild the relationship if the infidelity turns out to have actually happened.