No matter what people say these days, the lines between right and wrong are not quite as blurred as one would think, especially when it comes to cheating men and marriage in general. There is right, there is wrong, and each partner knows both quite well. That being said, the question remains as to whether or not men are at fault when it comes to cheating. Some would say yes, and some would say no, and while there is no excuse for cheating, there are always two sides to every story, and both sides must be listened to carefully if the marriage needs to be saved.
Premeditated? Absolutely not!
Those who have never been in a position to cheat, or even those who have never been married may look at cheaters and wonder just how they managed to get themselves into such a situation. After all, it is just a matter of saying ‘no’, right? It should be, but whether you choose to believe it or not, people do not get up in the morning and boldly announce: “I’m going to cheat on my wife!”. Well okay, in most cases that is not the truth, and in most cases it is not said aloud. Then again we’re not going to stay it has never happened.
A New Spark
If you have ever fallen in love then you are well aware of ‘the spark’, and you understand what it means. It is that feeling of love that initially creeps in on a first date, the first hug, or even the first kiss. This is the spark that tells you you’ve found the one you love, and it may even serve to tell you who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Is it possible for a new spark to ignite, possibly ruining your original marriage? Can that new spark be just as powerful as the old one? Unfortunately, it very much can, and there are scenarios that you wish to avoid whether you are male or female.
While it is perfectly fine to have friends of the opposite sex it is not perfectly fine to spend an excessive amount of time with them. Some situations that may arise could include dinner dates, double dates, work meetings, and a number of others. It is of the utmost importance that you remain formal and professional in any of these meetings and do your best to not form a bond any type with your female co-workers or friends.
This might sound terrible, but the honest truth is that no one is ever above cheating. Deep down we all have the urge, and many men, not necessarily cheating men, have stated they have fantasies regarding someone other than their wife. Whether or not this is perfectly natural and acceptable will be up to each couple, but in the end it will also be up to the couple as to whether or not the marriage can survive.
Surviving an affair is never easy, and you will in fact need to put your best foot forward if you plan to come out on top. Listen, pay attention, and try to understand both sides of this story. You might just be surprised at what you find out, and it may serve to keep your marriage intact for the foreseeable future.