What is it that triggers an affair? Does someone get up in the morning and determine that they are going to have one? Believe it or not, it typically does not work that way. You will find that a wife affair or even a husband affair is generally a spur of the moment thing. The spark that ignites the affair may be fleeting, and it may lead to either an emotional affair or a physical affair. Either way, there is a problem that needs to be dealt with, and in order to deal with it one needs to understand the difference between a physical affair and an emotional affair.
Physical Affair: The physical affair is the one that most people associate with the wife cheating and it will involve some type of sexual contact. In addition to being the most common, it is also the most detectable and as a result, the problem can be taken care of faster.
Emotional Affair: What is an emotional affair? Where is the line between simple friendship and what would appear to be love? This is a question that many people will ask, but there are few definitive answers. An emotional affair may be occurring when one fins themselves going to another for support, or perhaps discussing things with them that they should be discussing with their significant other. These are but a few examples, of course, and further research may be required on your part as every single case is going to be drastically different.
Correcting either one of these affairs could prove to be rather difficult, and the one thing you want to do is avoid wishing that your marriage could return to the way it was before. Yes, you were more than likely happy with your relationship at the start and you will have those happy memories for the rest of your life, but no matter how pleasant it seemed to be, something was wrong.
There was a circumstance that led to cheating whether it was you or the other individual, and this typically meant that some need was not being met, and with that being the case, something needs to be done now, after the affair, if you wish for your marriage to survive. There are many who tend to give up after an affair, and even if you are the one who has cheated, you can be rest assured that you do not want to quit. Even if a divorce did occur and you ended up with the other person, you would more than likely feel guilty, and over time, you would come to understand that you made the wrong choice entirely.
Don’t fool yourself, marriage is hard work, and you will need to contribute if you expect yours to survive for any length of time. Love and devotion are two very important elements, and if they existed at one time, there is a strong chance that they can exist again. Are you ready to retake your marriage? Are you prepared to put in the required work to make everyone, including yourself, happy again? If so, it’s time to either seek outside help, or simply jump into the situation headfirst. It’s a long road, but walking it properly will result in a happy marriage once again.
Get more information about the book “How To Survive An Affair” written by Dr. Frank Gunzburg at his site, Marriage Sherpa